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For Loved Ones & Caregivers

Anyone can be a caregiver for a man with prostate cancer. Caregivers can be friends, family, or loved ones. They may take on many roles in the course of a man’s prostate cancer journey. When someone you love is diagnosed with prostate cancer you may find that you quickly have to become an information specialists, a financial advisor, medical translator, and a source for emotional support. Caregivers take care of the men with prostate cancer in their lives. Here at ZERO we love caregivers and respect what you do to support a man with prostate cancer. On this page we provide tips and resources for being a caregiver.

Man and caregiver

Caregiving At The Time of Diagnosis

A prostate cancer diagnosis can be as scary. There are usually no symptoms at the time of diagnosis, so hearing the words ‘you have prostate cancer’ may be a shock. It is okay to let yourself be upset and fearful.  Everyone deals with the shock of a prostate cancer diagnosis differently. Be patient and understanding in view of the circumstances. Let your loved one take the time he needs to work through the news while you provide support.

Learn About Prostate Cancer

Research as much about prostate cancer as you can. By being informed and knowledgeable about all aspects of your loved one’s disease, you can provide support. Your knowledge will help you talk to doctors, understand different treatment options, and be supportive while you make decisions.

A good place to start is the Learn section of the ZERO website. There we have information about treatments, side effects, and many resources. Learn about his diagnosis and treatment options. For every recommended treatment, it helps to know about possible side effects. It is also important to discuss the possibility of recurrence with your doctor. This knowledge may not soften the effects of prostate cancer, but it will help you face the future with courage and hope.

Every man’s cancer is different, so the best place to learn about your loved one’s specific prostate cancer is at your doctor’s office. Download our Questions to Ask Your Doctor to start a conversation with the doctor. Consider a second or even a third opinion with both urologists and oncologists.

Watch Liz Ostman talk about her own caregiver journey, and the importance of researching after a prostate cancer diagnosis.

Communicate and Work Together

Even prostate cancer cannot destroy the bond between you and your loved one. You are stronger when you work as a team and open up to each other. It is important to communicate and support each other throughout the journey. Talk about your concerns with your loved one and show that you care.

Be there with your loved one at the doctor appointments. He may need you to remind him what questions to ask, to keep notes for him, or simply to hold his hand. It may help you feel empowered and prepared for the future to make a treatment plan together.

Be Understanding and Patient

Know that you are not alone—and most importantly, ensure that your loved one knows that you are there for support.

Your loved one may sometimes want to talk to his doctor alone so he can address his questions and fears without upsetting you. You are still an important part of his prostate cancer journey.

Managing Finances

In addition to learning about the disease, you may also have to learn about managing the costs of treating the disease. Fortunately there are many resources available and people to help. Be in touch with your insurance provider to learn about what is covered. Try to keep notes from conversations with the doctors, insurance and other specialists. Another good idea is to keep in contact with your hospital’s social worker or financial advisor to see if they have resources for financial assistance, payment plans, or reduced rates. Set aside some time every week to sort through your bills.

You can also contact ZERO360, our free comprehensive support program that can help access financial resources and solve other financial issues relating to a prostate cancer diagnosis and treatment.

Check out our list of financial resources.

The New Normal

In some cases, continuing care for prostate cancer simply becomes a part of a man’s life. In living with the disease, make a daily routine that works for you. Determine how best to adapt to this new normal. Many times when people are diagnosed with cancer they use it as an opportunity to make healthy life changes, such as adopting a more nutritious diet or increasing activity. Encourage your loved one to make healthy changes.

Watch Bill and Liz Ostman discuss life together years on after his prostate cancer diagnosis.

Find Support

Cancer is tough to fight. Often you may not be able to do it alone. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. And conversely, when friends, family, and community members ask if they can do anything for you, don’t be afraid to say yes! If you are just too tired after a hospital stay to cook, let them bring over a casserole dish. Have you not had the funds or time to plan a date night lately? Let them treat you to a movie and dinner. Let them show how much they love you.

You provide emotional support to your loved one, but his journey can be tough on you, too. Consider finding emotional support for yourself in the form of a friend, counselor, or support group. There are many services and programs available to help caregivers. We encourage you to take advantage of these resources for yourself.

ZERO360, our free comprehensive support program, can also help find emotional support services and resources.

Take Care of Yourself

Set aside time in your schedule for activities that make you feel good about you. You are best able to provide your loved one with care when you are feeling good about yourself. Providing support for a man with prostate cancer can be very stressful. Be kind to yourself and accept help from others.

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